Don't Wait Until the Last Minute for Pre-Marital Counseling

Wedding planning is hard, but marriage can be harder. Thanks to a program sponsored by the
Health and Human Services Commission, couples approaching marriage can build a solid
foundation and save the $60 marriage license fee as well.

The Twogether in Texas program offers premarital education to engaged couples across the state
through a network of providers. Couples who go through a class or couple's sessions can have their marriage license fee reduced by $60 and waive the 72-hour waiting period after they get their license.

"The premarital education that couples get in the Twogether in Texas program can set a strong
foundation for a marriage and give couples a better idea of the challenges they will face," said
Gordon Leeks, who oversees the program for HHSC.
"The idea behind Twogether in Texas is that couples take an eight- hour class or eight house of couple's session which covers conflict resolution, communication and other key aspects of marriage," Leeks said. "The goal is to increase the well-being of all Texas children by providing voluntary marriage and relationship education skills to their parents.”

Couples who complete a class or sessions get a certificate that they can take to their county clerk when they apply for their marriage license. The certificate is good for one year and serves as proof that the couple is eligible for the discounted marriage license fee.

And plan ahead. It could take up to 8 weeks to complete a course or sessions.

Program facts:
1. The marriage education classes and discount for a marriage license were authorized by
House Bill 2685 from the 2007 Texas legislative session.
2.29,000 people statewide completed the classes in FY 2014.
3. Researchers have found that couples who underwent counseling before their wedding had a 30% higher marital success rate than those who did not.


If you are interested in making your relationship stronger and would like to avoid the causes of divorce, call Carolyn C. Martin at 512-795-0402 at Mariposa Psychotherapy Services

View a Monarch Butterfly Emerging into It's New World

Birth of a Butterfly

I can now be found on Thumbtack.

I can now be found on Thumbtack.

Or you can reach me at 512-795-0402. Or go to my website

Ralationships First

Imagine better relationships, better lives and a better world. This is the goal of new group called Relationships First. The group is made up of a wide range of disciplines from psychologists to entertainers.

"Our vision is that all individuals will value healthy relationships and have access to the education and resources needed to build and maintain these relationships."

"Our mission is to empower individuals to learn healthy relationship skills by increasing the public’s awareness of the value and benefit of healthy relationships; providing easy access to the best science-based information and resources; and serving as a catalyst for a new healthy relationship movement."

What does it mean to put relationships first? Find out here.

If you are struggling with the relationships in your life, I can be reached at Mariposa Psychotherapy Services 512-795-0402. My office is at 5808 Balcones, Suite 101, Austin, Tx 78731

Austin-Cheating/Adultery/Affairs--Getting Caught

 Getting Caught Cheating

Because my specialization for the last 20 years has been cheating, I think I've heard possibly every story in the book. But when I received this joke from a friend of mine, I got to thinking maybe I haven't heard it all. One thing is for sure. Rarely do I have a couple come in saying the "cheater" had a guilty conscience and wanted to come clean. Usually the reason the affair comes to light is because the "cheater" got caught. And the ways they get caught can boggle the mind. Technology has made it very easy to catch the "cheater." But many times people are caught simply because they believe they can get away with cheating. And add to that the fact that people are just more savvy about cheating.

A man calls home to his wife and says, "Honey, I've been invited to fly to Canada with my boss and several of his friends to go fishing, for the long weekend. This is a good opportunity for me to get that promotion I've been wanting, so could you please pack enough clothes for a three-day weekend. And also, would you get out my rod and tackle box from the attic? We're leaving at 4:30 pm from the office and I'll swing by the house to pick-up my things. Oh! And please pack my new navy blue silk pajamas.”

 

The wife thinks this sounds a bit odd, but, being the good wife, she does exactly what her husband asked.

 

Following the long weekend he returns home a little tired, but, otherwise, looking good. The wife welcomes him home and asks if he caught many fish?

He says, “ Yes! Lots of walleyes, some bass, and a few pike. ” "But", he said, "why didn't you pack my new blue silk pajamas, like I asked you to do? ”

You'll love the answer.

The wife replies, "I did -- they're in your tackle box".

If you're dealing with an unfaithful partner, I can help. I can be reached at 512-795-0402. You can find me at my Mariposa Psychotherapy Services 

 A warning sign that a relationship is in trouble is when one or both people have lost their fondness and/or admiration for the partner.


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Weekends for Couples

I often hear from my couples that they fight more on the weekends than during the week. Try these tips from John Gottman, Ph.D.

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